It happens to all of us. We have a child or children and our lives revolve around them, but not in a bad way. More of an all consuming where did my day go kind of way. And before we know it days, weeks, months, years have gone by. You wonder where the time went.
One thing that we cannot allow to happen is to lose ourselves completely and not spend quality time with our spouses or significant others. My wife and I decided right away that we need to set aside time every week for just us. Every Saturday night is date night. Some times it is with friends, families or other couples but we are still together. Our preference, however, is really for it to be just the two of us. It does not necessarily have to be something fancy - but it does have to happen. You need quality, quiet time together to laugh, talk and just relax. Many of our friends do not do this, but we are steadfast in our belief. We were friends before we got married and we spent our first few years of marriage just enjoying each other's company and doing things we like. We still want to spend time together though our schedules are no longer just ours. There are some weeks when we have more opportunities to spend time just the two of us and there are some weeks when it is impossible. But we always have our date night. And we always will.